💔😢 Tired of Dating Apps, Some Turn to ‘Date-Me Docs’ 😍📝
⬇️ Pidgin ⬇️ ⬇️ Black American Slang ⬇️ English
After one breakup last year, Connie Li, one sharp software engineer, been back on the dating apps, tryna find love again. But it look like most of the guys hittin’ her up just want some casual fling, so she decided to switch things up.
Inspired by dem long, résumé-like dating bios wey she see pipo dey post online, she write her own profile. She describe herself for one file way longer than dis article wey I dey write, she talk say she be monogamous, short and she like wear colorful outfits. She even talk say she dey sure she be cat for one past life, and she be one of dem weirdo bodega cats wey like people. 🐱🧡
She share the view-only document, wey dem call ‘date-me doc,’ for social media, and before she know, plenty people start respondin’.
“There is something kinda dorky about ‘date-me docs’ wey remind me of the early days of the internet,” Ms. Li yarn, talkin’ ’bout how pipo take dey meet on AIM, AOL’s now-defunct instant messaging service. “I still dey use the apps, but e don reach one point wey I reduce how I dey use them ’cause dem no dey give me serious matches.” 📱💻🤓
Ms. Li, wey just waka come San Francisco from New York, na one small group of pipo wey dey use online shareable documents, mostly Google Docs, find love. Dis ‘date-me doc’ thing na one new dating trend wey also dey bring back memories of di old times, wey na like di newspaper personal ads dem post, no be di algorithm-driven, swipe-based apps wey plenty pipo sabi. 🗞️🗂️
Since she write her profile last fall, she don go out on about 15 first dates with guys wey holla after reading am.
As e be so, ‘date-me docs’ don dey trend among some urban pipo, especially as di burnout from dating apps dey increase. Pipo don dey look for professional matchmakers, and dem don dey explore TikTok, Instagram, and oda social media sites as alternative ways to find love. The top dating apps even see drop for user growth last year, according to one Morgan Stanley report. 😓💔
Even though plenty adults for the United States don ever use one dating app, e still no reach the number of ‘date-me doc’ creators. Na mostly pipo wey dey work for di technology industry and dem dey live for major U.S. cities. We no sure exactly how many ‘date-me docs’ dey because some pipo no dey post their profiles for public, dem dey send am to dem wen dey interested. One database wey one ‘date-me doc’ creator gather get more than 100 ‘date-me docs’ from pipo for cities like London, Chicago, Toronto, Dayton, Ohio, and Denver. Anoda one get profiles for Seattle, Ottawa, São Paulo, Brazil, and Los Angeles. 📝📊🌎
E no dey one particular way dem dey write ‘date-me docs,’ but dem dey usually plain-text documents wey include age, gender, sexual orientation, hobbies, and interests, plus some good and bad things about di person wey write am. Some dey look like clean websites with nice design, pictures, and music tracks. Some dey look more like extended résumés. 📄💻🎶
José Luis Ricón, wey work for one biotech start-up for Silicon Valley, talk say he decide to create one ‘date-me doc’ afta him go on some boring dates with women wey him meet for dating apps. For di past year, Mr. Ricón, 30, from Madrid, don go out on dates with four of di six women wey holla after reading him bio. “Even though it’s the first time you’re meeting, there’s already a lot of shared ground,” he yarn, since oda ‘date-me doc’ creators dey inside him social circle. 🌆👥
For plenty pipo, dating apps dey cause wahala. Although some pipo get good experiences with di apps, na small percentage of users. Last year, 46 percent of users yarn say dem no get good experience, na small pass di 42 percent wey dem record for 2019, according to one Pew Research Center survey. 📊😞
Women dem dey more likely to get negative experiences than men. About two-thirds of women under 50 wey dey use dating apps talk say dem don receive physical threats, unwanted continued contact from match, dem call dem offensive names, and dem receive unsolicited sexual messages or images. Na why some pipo dey look for oda ways to find love. ‘Date-me docs’ never too popular, but dem be potential solution to that burnout problem, according to Jessica Engle, one therapist and dating coach wey base for Bay Area. 🧡💼💏
She describe ‘date-me docs’ as one mix of older dating sites (dem ones wey allow pipo write long profiles) and traditional matchmaking, wey dey happen naturally inside person’s social circle. “The challenge fit be say fewer pipo dey engage with dis way of meeting pipo, so dem fit no get plenty matches,” she talk.
Some pipo no sabi how much to share for dem ‘date-me docs.’ Katja Grace, one 36-year-old artificial intelligence researcher, talk say some pipo too critical about demselves for dem bio. “I go encourage pipo to talk more about why dem go be good person to date,” she talk, after she review di almost 100 responses wey men and women send her afta she post her ‘date-me doc’ for Twitter for April. 🧠💕
Some of di responses show potential, she talk, and she still dey date pipo wey holla her afta dem read her ‘date-me doc.’
Steve Krouse, 29, talk say ‘date-me docs’ no be for everybody. Him create one central database for ‘date-me docs’ last year, after he see dem for plenty different websites. “You go need dey part of dis weird internet, open-source culture,” he talk. As he dey write him own ‘date-me doc,’ Mr. Krouse, wey dey live for Brooklyn, yarn say him dey shy to dance for public, and him no too like travel. Him want make dem wey dey view am know say e no go work if dem no fit dance or dem like travel. 📝🔍🌆
No be everything you go sabi from online description, but him admit say e feel more efficient pass oda ways to find partner.
“I never ever go bar to meet stranger for my life,” he talk. “I just no fit imagine am.” 🚫🍻
NOW IN BLACK AMERICAN SLANG
💔😢 Tired of Them Dating Apps? Peep ‘Date-Me Docs’ for the Real 😍📝
So, after that breakup last year, Connie Li, our tech-savvy queen, hopped back on them dating apps looking for something real. But most dudes sliding in were all about that short-term fun. Sis wanted something different, right? She saw these detailed dating profiles folks were putting out online and thought, “Why not?”
Connie whipped up a profile, longer than this whole piece right here. She kept it 100, saying she’s all about that one-on-one love, petite, and rocks those bright fits. On the fun side, she joked about probably being one of those friendly corner store cats in another life. 🐱🧡
She threw her “date-me doc” on the socials, and wouldn’t you know, the love started coming in.
Feels kinda old school, right? Ms. Li was all, “It’s like a flashback to the early internet days,” thinking about those AIM days before it dipped out. “Still on the apps, but they’re on the bench now. Not giving me what I’m really looking for.” 📱💻🤓
Now, after moving from the Big Apple to San Fran, Ms. Li is on to this fresh scene. Using shared docs, especially Google ones, to find love? Kinda reminds you of those newspaper ads, way different from that swiping game we’re all used to. 🗞️🗂️
Since she put herself out there, she’s had around 15 first dates with dudes who felt her vibe after peeping her doc. Looks like ‘date-me docs’ are becoming the thing, especially with folks getting tired of the same old apps. People are even getting pros to find matches or trying platforms like TikTok and IG. Word is, top dating apps had a dip in users last year, Morgan Stanley put that out there. 😓💔
A lot of folks have tried dating apps at least once, but ‘date-me doc’ makers? That’s a select group. Most are tech heads and city dwellers. It’s tough to say how many are out there, ’cause not everyone’s putting their business on blast. Some databases got over 100 profiles from cities all over. 📝📊🌎
Docs come in all styles. Some are just straight facts: age, hobbies, and what makes them tick. Others go all out, looking sharp with photos and tunes. Some keep it professional, like a resume. 📄💻🎶
José Luis Ricón, out in Silicon Valley, decided to jump on this after some meh dates from apps. Over a year, he’s vibed with four out of the six ladies who hit him up after reading his bio. Finding shared ground with other ‘date-me doc’ creators in his circle? That’s the ticket. 🌆👥
Now, dating apps? They’ve got their issues. Some find their match, but plenty don’t. Some research from Pew even said dissatisfaction went up from 2019 to last year. Especially for the ladies, with a lot of them having rough times on these platforms. That’s why alternative ways like ‘date-me docs’ are stepping up. Jessica Engle, a therapist and dating coach out in the Bay Area, thinks this could be the antidote to that app fatigue. 🧡💼💏
Sharing can be tricky, though. Katja Grace, deep into AI, suggests folks focus on their strengths, not just what they think they lack. After sharing her ‘date-me doc’ on Twitter, she’s been going through almost 100 messages. 🧠💕
Steve Krouse started a ‘date-me docs’ database and says it ain’t for everyone. Being genuine is the move. When putting his info out, he kept it real about not being a dancer and not being all about travel. 📝🔍🌆
Online bios can’t tell you everything, but Krouse thinks it’s a better way to find someone special. He’s like, “I’ve never been to a bar to meet someone random. Can’t see that happening for me.” 🚫🍻
NOW IN ENGLISH
💔😢 Fed Up with Dating Apps? ‘Date-Me Docs’ Might Be the Answer 😍📝
After a heartbreak last year, Connie Li, a savvy software engineer, dove back into dating apps hoping to find a new connection. But the guys sliding into her DMs seemed more interested in short-term fun than something real. Wanting a change, she took inspiration from the detailed dating profiles she’d seen people post online.
Connie crafted a profile, a document far more extensive than this article, where she described herself as monogamous, petite, and a lover of vibrant clothing. She even added a fun tidbit: she’s pretty sure she was a sociable bodega cat in a past life. 🐱🧡
She shared this “date-me doc” on social media and, to her surprise, the responses started pouring in.
“It has this quirky charm, reminiscent of the internet’s early days,” Ms. Li commented, drawing parallels to how people once connected on AIM, AOL’s bygone messaging service. “I haven’t abandoned the apps, but they’ve taken a backseat because they aren’t getting me meaningful connections.” 📱💻🤓
Having relocated from New York to San Francisco, Ms. Li is among a niche group using online shareable documents, primarily Google Docs, as a novel approach to dating. It’s a refreshing throwback to the days of newspaper personal ads, contrasting the impersonal swipe-culture most are used to. 🗞️🗂️
Since creating her profile in the fall, she’s been on roughly 15 first dates with men who reached out after reading it. It seems ‘date-me docs’ are catching on among city dwellers, especially given the increasing fatigue from traditional dating apps. The app fatigue is so real that some are turning to professional matchmakers or scouring platforms like TikTok and Instagram. Recent data from a Morgan Stanley report even shows a decline in user growth for popular dating apps. 😓💔
Although many U.S. adults have tried a dating app at least once, ‘date-me doc’ creators are still relatively few, primarily hailing from tech sectors and residing in major cities. The exact number is hard to pin down because not everyone makes their profile public. Some ‘date-me doc’ databases have collected over 100 profiles from cities worldwide. 📝📊🌎
These profiles can differ wildly, from simple text docs detailing age, hobbies, and quirks to more polished web-like presentations with photos and even background music. Some even resemble extensive CVs. 📄💻🎶
José Luis Ricón, working in Silicon Valley, decided to make a ‘date-me doc’ after some uneventful app dates. Over the past year, he’s had successful dates with four out of the six women who reached out after perusing his bio. Sharing common ground with other ‘date-me doc’ users in his circle has been a perk. 🌆👥
For many, dating apps spell trouble. Despite some finding success, a significant portion hasn’t. According to a Pew Research Center survey, dissatisfaction rates have risen from 42% in 2019 to 46% last year. Women, especially those under 50, report higher rates of negative experiences. Hence, the search for alternatives like ‘date-me docs’. While not mainstream yet, Jessica Engle, a Bay Area therapist and dating coach, sees them as a potential solution to app burnout. 🧡💼💏
Balancing what to reveal can be tricky. Katja Grace, an AI researcher, suggests folks highlight their dating strengths instead of focusing solely on self-criticism. Since sharing her ‘date-me doc’ on Twitter, she’s had to sift through almost 100 responses. 🧠💕
Steve Krouse, who started a ‘date-me docs’ database, emphasizes that it might not be for everyone. Crafting his doc, he felt it crucial to be genuine, even sharing his hesitance to dance and limited interest in traveling. 📝🔍🌆
While online descriptions can’t capture everything, Mr. Krouse feels it’s more efficient than traditional methods. “I’ve never gone to a bar intending to meet a stranger,” he admitted. “It’s just not my scene.” 🚫🍻
